Why I'm Letting Go of Arguments on Social Media in 2025.
- Estelle CHARLERY
- Mar 1
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 6
My mother always had this saying: "Trying to explain something to some people is like trying to get water out of a stone." And you know what? She's absolutely right!
Some people just don't want to understand when you talk to them. They aren't interested in whatever you have to say. Not interessed in growth, new perspectives, or deeper conversations. They just want to argue for the sake of arguing. And I've realized—I'm no longer entertaining it.
Last year, I made a choice to protect my peace, and in 2025, I'm doubling down. I refuse to drain my energy trying to make people see what they are determined to ignore. Arguing with closed minds is exhausting, unproductive, and honestly, beneath me at this point.
The Social Media Wake-Up Call
This decision didn't come from nowhere. I was pretty mistreated on social media. Enough to want to quit for a while. I have actually been silent on there for several months due to the violence of some comments and messages.
The constant barrage of negativity became too much—words fired from behind screens with little thought to their impact. Maybe they came from a hurt place, but that wasn't my burden to bear. I refused to swallow those ugly words as if they were my punishment.
Finding Resilience Through Journaling
Instead of fighting back or drowning in others' negativity, I turned inward. I discovered that journaling wasn't just a hobby—it became my lifeline to mental health and personal development.
Every day, I open my notebook and pour out my thoughts without judgment. This simple practice has completely transformed how I process conflict and protect my energy. Journaling has helped me "clean" myself from those freely distributed ugly words that once clung to me.
What surprised me most was how much I enjoyed spending time alone with myself and my own beautiful thoughts. Away from the noise and constant arguments, I found a source of positive motivation I hadn't realized was there all along.
Reprogramming Your Mind Through Self-Coaching
Journaling isn't just about venting—it's a powerful form of self-coaching. When you regularly write down your thoughts and feelings, you begin to recognize patterns in your reactions. You become aware of what triggers you, what drains you, and most importantly, what fills you with inspiration.
By documenting these insights, I've gradually reprogrammed my mind to:
Recognize when an argument isn't worth my energy
Identify when someone is seeking understanding versus seeking conflict
Honor my boundaries without feeling guilty
Channel my energy toward growth rather than defense.
This reprogramming doesn't happen overnight. It requires consistency and honesty with yourself. But the results are life-changing—a mind that automatically protects your peace rather than automatically engaging in every battle.
Creating Your Peaceful Life, One Page at a Time
In 2025, I'm investing my time where it truly matters—on my passions, my personal growth, and the people who inspire, challenge, and uplift me. I'm done explaining myself to those who only listen to respond, not to understand.
Journaling has become one of my favorite ways to express self-love. It's a sacred space where I can be vulnerable, celebrate victories, and process difficulties without external judgment. This practice has been so transformative. It comforts me that creating my own collection of notebooks and journals was a good idea. Most of them are available from my e-shop for French buyers and all of them are easy to order from Amazon for those of you who live in other countries.
These aren't just products—they're tools for resilience. Each page offers an opportunity to rewrite the narrative that others might try to impose on you. Each entry is a step toward a more authentic, peaceful existence.
A Gentle Invitation
This year continues to be about peace, progress, and purpose—not pointless debates. If someone isn't open to learning or evolving, that's their choice, but I won't waste my breath. I'm moving forward with clarity, confidence, and the wisdom to know when to walk away.
So here's to 2025: the year of choosing our battles wisely, protecting our energy fiercely, and surrounding ourselves with those who truly get it.
If you're with me on this journey, I invite you to try journaling. Start small—five minutes each morning or evening. Watch how it gradually shifts your perspective, builds your resilience, and helps you reclaim your power from those who would drain it.
If not? Well, I'll let you keep trying to squeeze water from that stone. Meanwhile, I'll be filling pages with thoughts that serve me, creating a life too beautiful to waste on arguments that don't.
How has journaling helped you protect your peace? Share in the comments below, or better yet—write about it in your journal first!
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